Avoiding a couple crisis

Crises in a relationship can become real opportunities for both personal and couple growth. When behaviours that have always worked stop giving results, and you feel tension between you and your partner, it means that something is changing. This change, if addressed together, can lead to a positive evolution of the relationship.

However, if the crisis goes on unaddressed, it risks driving you further and further apart. Here are some signs that could indicate a couple crisis:

• Sense of powerlessness and depressionFeeling stuck and unable to positively influence the relationship.
• Stress and nervousness: Exaggerated reactions to situations that you previously handled with serenity.
• Increased tensionFrequent discussions or prolonged silences create a heavy atmosphere.
• Anxiety: Constant concern for the future of the relationship.
• TirednessLack of energy and motivation to devote oneself to one's partner and common activities.

What are the Causes of a Couple Crisis? The causes can be many and often interconnected. Even positive changes, such as the birth of a child or a career advancement, can generate stress and require a new balance. Experiencing emotions together is crucial. Routine and lack of interest in spending time together can trigger a crisis.

Here are some contributing factors:

• Overloading the partner: Entrusting too much responsibility to the other.
• Avoiding conflictsDo not engage in arguments for fear of quarrelling.
• Excessive self-celebrationConstantly enumerating what one has done for the other.
• Expecting everything to work the same wayExpecting unchanging behaviour from the partner.
• Gestures out of a sense of dutyActions without real emotional involvement.

Jealousy can also be amplified during a crisis, manifesting itself in controlling or accusatory behaviour.

How to Cope with Crisis: Communication and What to Avoid Here are some behaviours to avoid:

• Criticising, comparing the partner with others, or blaming.
• Using threats or emotional blackmail.
• Ordering or insulting, minimising the other's problems.

Instead, try:

• Using positive language.
• Expressing your feelings without accusing.
• Showing appreciation and actively listen.

What to Do During a Couple Crisis When a Crisis Occurs

• Speak openly.
• Rediscover emotional and physical intimacy.
• Establish common goals.
• Practice forgiveness.

Sometimes, couples therapy can offer a neutral space to overcome conflicts and strengthen the relationship.

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Couple crises, however painful, can be an opportunity to grow together and strengthen your bond. By facing them with open communication, respect and understanding, you can overcome these difficult moments and build an even stronger and more fulfilling relationship.

Remember, you are not alone or lonely. If you feel you need support, do not hesitate to ask for help. Talk to trusted friends, family members or professionals. Taking care of your relationship is crucial for the well-being of both of you.

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We wish you the best in your journey as a couple. We are here to support you and accompany you towards a happier and more serene relationship.